It all evens out in the end

Tackling Limiting Belief #4 - Life is not fair

Why I've outgrown the belief

'Life is not fair' is a classic belief held by many people, and I can certainly say there are many instance in my life where I deeply feel as if I've been wronged. It feels so deeply, ragefully unfair and those instances still haunt me today.

In particular, those instances make feel scared and weary about the world and humanity. And that bitterness, no longer serves me. I can see how it holds me back from taking chances I truly desire.

My new mantra

Instead, I'm focusing on the new mantra 'it all evens out in the end'.

This idea is basically the same as karma, or the law of attraction. You get back, what you put out.

The universe responds to the energy you put out in to the world and gives you more of it.

So for me, it is about looking at the bigger picture. Tell yourself, 'I trust there's more to this story and it all evens out in the end'.

Say if someone has wronged you, and you innocently trusted them. Maybe you were a child, maybe you were an adolescent naive in love. I try and believe that there's a bigger picture in this story - that people who keep doing wrong will have wrong done to them. Or conversely, that people who are doing wrong, are doing so because they've been wronged in the past. It makes me feel as if there's some explanation to the behaviour, and lets me have more faith in humanity. It also gives my rage and anger somewhere to go.

I refuse to put the same painful, hurtful energy out there because I truly believe the best revenge is taking yourself outside of the story and not caring (if possible). That means living your best life, unaffected, as if you were never wronged in the first place.

I also refuse to be a victim. That means owning my story. Feeling my pain. Speaking up, and not protecting the person who wronged you out of shame, or false positivity.

It's a tricky balance honestly, to feel the pain, move through it and then move through life confidently as if it never happened.

What people don't understand about that concept, is that it doesn't mean that you don't speak about it, or name it. It doesn't mean denying what happened to you. But it does mean feeling empowered despite what happened to you.