Validation comes from within

I am worthy no matter what. I am worthy simply for existing.

These are my mantras for tackling my limiting belief #3 I need external validation to be worthy.

This to me, is one of the trickiest ones. My need for external validation is endless, and closely tied to the habit of comparison.

But isn't comparison, almost a biological and sociological tool for seeing where we are in the social hierarchy? I think it is.

So the only way to beat the hardwiring within my biological system, is to extend my beliefs beyond the system.

Yes, we humans are essentially animals. And all animals compete, compare and fight for social status, for resources and for the perfect mate.

However, if I can stay conscious to a higher power beyond me (i.e. God, the universe, the law of attraction), I can consistently find the feeling of worthiness for myself.

The key for me is to keep my ego as small as possible. My ego should be hunched sitting in the corner of the room, while my highest self should be front and centre, hosting the party.

In practice, that means do as much as I can for others with genuine love. It's a sure fire way to get beyond yourself, and connect with others.

And what that doesn't mean is, doing things for others out of obligation, their praise or disengagement.

The key distinction here is genuine love is when you think of what the other person wants more than you think about your needs.